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Ravalli Republic, Monday, September 29, 2008 Page 3 Community TODAY'S EVENTS Mountain Top Ministries monthly meet Mountain Top Ministries of Ravalli County will hold its monthly meeting at the Coffee Cup on Monday Sept. 29, at 7 p.m. We are raising funds to help Tyler Bochae, a 24-year-old Bitterroot Valley resident suffering from brutal tics brought on by Tourette Syndrome. A dangerous surgery could give him a normal life but $200,000 is needed for this surgery. Anyone interested in contributing to this cause can contact Dancing Bear rat 363-0323, and please, if you are able, remember to attend our meeting on Monday.

Chess Club The North Valley Public Library Chess Club will hold its monthly play on Monday, Sept. 29 at 7 p.m. at the North Valley Public Library community room on Main St. in Stevensville. All levels of play are welcome.

A special presentation on the greatest move ever played and the man who played it will begin at 7 p.m. Diet and stress: simple solutions This seminar is a dynamic lifestyle intervention program which provides strategies to help individuals deal with stress in a more positive way and see the relationship between scientific principles of lifestyle and better coping ability. The dates that this seminar will run are on four consecutive Mondays, Sept. 8,16, 22, 29. It will begin at 6:30 p.m.

and last about an hour and a half. The seminar will be at the Blodgett View Christian School, 119 West Bridge Rd. (by the Seventh Day Adventist Church.) There will be a fee of $25 for the syllabus and other supplies. For more information call Marilyn Albertson 375-0620 or Gladys Johnson 370-7977. Bitterroot Valley Chorus begins The 36th Christmas Concert Season of the Bitterroot Valley Chorus begins with a rehearsal at 6:30 p.m.

on Monday, Sept. 29, in the Hamilton High School choir room. The chorus is open to all interested singers, and newcomers are always welcome. All subsequent Monday rehearsals begin promptly at 7 p.m. This year's Christmas performances are slated for Dec.

13 and 14 in the Hamilton High School Performing Arts Center. At the first rehearsal, chorus members should be prepared to pay $20 for their music packet. For questions, contact Tricie at 961-1789 or Karen at 363-4738. Healing from the sudden death of a spouse Studies indicate that the most stressful life event is the death of one's spouse. A group meets weekly to provide solace and support for those navigating this most difficult life event.

It is designed for people between the ages of 25 to 69 who lost a spouse in the prime of life. It is a facilitated group for sharing support and help for the process of grief. It is also intended to ease social isolation and provide an environment of caring with those who understand the depth of loss, The group is free and being held in memory of Dr. John Sisson, Psychologist. It meets every Monday evening in Corvallis at 7 p.m.

Call Aleta Sisson at 363-3353 for more information. DARBY Barbara Jean Klenk was born Oct. 11, 1951 to Russell and Audrey Klenk in snowy Buffalo, N.Y. where she was raised with her sisters Karen and Virginia. Barb was a vibrant, striking and talented young woman.

She was active in the peace movement of the 60s, attended anti- demonstrations and educated herself on current and global affairs to play her part in making the world a better place for her soon to be children. Barb married Joseph Kilian and became mother to her three children, and finest works, Amy, Kathleen and Andrew. She later divorced and had a hard life, but never wavered to the challenges and ill fortune she had to face as a young woman. Barb moved to Montana in 1999 to be with her daughters and new grandbabies and was given a blank canvass in which to paint a marvelous new beginning. She created many new friendships, helped her daughters raise their own children and was able to create a business for herself sharing her greatest talent, her artwork.

Her work was a reflection of her awe of the natural world, her passion for the environment and the simple creatures she had the gift of sharing the world with. Barb was the proud grandmother of her four grandsons, Evan, Myles, Mitchell and Cully Cash who brought her much joy and delighted her with their unconditional love, happiness, inspiration and practical jokes. Grandma Barb took the boys on countless walks and advenwith a story to tell. She was an incredibly bright, tures into the woods and always came home, insightful, beautiful, gentle, funny and loving soul. A lifelong learner, Barb was always armed Barbara Jean Klenk with a good book.

She immersed herself in the quest to always learn more about health and environmental issues, Native American history and politics. She led a simple life, never wanting more than she needed. Someone once said, "I've seen and met angels wearing the disguise of ordinary people living ordinary lives." To those who had the pleasure of knowing Barbara while having had the appearance of being ordinary, knew she was an extraordinary individual who stole the hearts of many with her fierce wit and humor and had the compassion, selflessness and loving arms of an angel. Barbara passed away Wednesday, Sept. 1 10, 2008 at age 56 in hospice after a courageous battle with cancer, and even while she was in her hardest struggle she was never afraid, and was the beacon of light, of hope and of quiet strength.

In the words of Durward L. Allen, "We listened for a voice crying in the wilderness. And we heard the jubilation of wolves." Barbara found her peace, for now her spirit is free to howl and dance eternal among the stars. Barbara is survived by her loving mother Audrey; sister Karen (and Joe) Ulasko; sister Ginna (and John) Feigert; loving and devoted children and families of Amy, Larry and Myles Smith, Kate, Mike, Evan, Mitchell and Cullen Duggan; devoted son Andrew Kilian who cared for his mother; and loving and supportive friends all who will deeply miss Barbara Jean. Barbara's ashes will be scattered by family to rest her among the wild land she loved.

Services are entrusted to the care and direction of Brothers Mortuary and Crematory. Condolences and memories may be e-mailed to GOVERNMENT CALENDAR sider approval of the final plat for the Arbors Subdivision, 6:15 p.m. Meting to authorize submission of a Community Development Block Grant (CDBG) application for a lift station to be located on Old Corvallis Rd. Tuesday, Sept. 30 Planning department 11 a.m.

County Setback Committee Discussion and possible decision on streamside setback administration and extension of deadline commissioners meeting room Wednesday, Oct. 1 Planning department 8:30 a.m. and Recorder Subdivision exemption review Family transfers: Kammerer, Halstead, Conner, Germann; boundary line relocations: Arvish, position. Either way, please get some counseling because you have a lot of trust to rebuild, regardless of what happens to this woman. Dear Annie: My brother, "Paul," passed away unexpectedly, leaving my sister, "Sue," and me as the only survivors.

(Our parents died several years ago.) The three of us were pretty close and lived in the same neighborhood. Last year, Paul and I suffered a rift in our relationship. After much soothing and a year's time, I felt our relationship was well on the way to a complete recovery. Now I find that, although Paul's will splits his estate evenly between my sister and me, he named only Sue as the beneficiary on his insurance policy. This was a very current policy.

I don't begrudge Sue the money, but was hurt to realize that Paul must still have been harboring ill will. I am distressed that these were the last thoughts he had of me. More than anything else, I would wish for more time with my brother. Please tell your readers to think very hard about how their actions could hurt their loved ones after they are gone, I am trying to work through this situation without being resentful and would appreciate your advice. Saddened Sister Dear Sister: No matter how current the policy, it's quite possible Paul originally set up the beneficiary while you were still feuding and renewed it without changing it, assuming he could always do it later.

You need to forgive yourself and Paul for treating your disagreement as if you had time to fix it. Our condolences. Fay P. Strong HAMILTON Fay P. Strong, 92, of Hamilton passed away June 20, 2008.

There will be an informal gathering of family and friends to celebrate the life of Fay on Saturday, Oct. 4, 2008 from 11 a.m. until 2 p.m. at 803 S. Third St.

in Hamilton. Arrangements are under the care of the Daly-Leach Chapel. Jack Betts CONNER -Jack Betts, 78, of Conner passed away Saturday, Sept. 27, 2008 at Marcus Daly Memorial Hospital. Arrangements are pending and will be announced by the Daly-Leach Chapel.

Kalina Marie Woodward HAMILTON Kalina: Marie Woodward, 14 days old, died early in the morning, Friday, Sept. 26, 2008, surrounded by her family at home. Funeral services are entrusted to the care and direction of Brothers Mortuary and Crematory. Condolences and memories may be e-mailed to Robert D. Olds CORVALLIS Robert D.

Olds, 73, of Corvallis passed away Saturday, Sept. 27, 2008 at St. Patrick Hospital in Missoula. Arrangements are pending and will be announced by the DalyLeach Chapel. William E.

Schreckendgust HAMILTON William E. Schreckendgust, 82, of Hamilton passed away, Sunday, Sept. 28, 2008 at the Marcus Daly Hospice and Palliative Care Center. Arrangements are under the care of the Daly-Leach Chapel. Sunday, Sept.

28 Lone Rock County Parks 7 p.m. Ravalli County Parks, Lone Rock division will have a special meeting at the Three Mile firehouse. Public is welcome! Any questions contact 777-5106. Monday, Sept. 29 Planning department 9:30 a.m.

Family transfer evaluation committee (Planning, Clerk and Recorder, County Attorney's office, a commissioner) Discussion and decision on Sandra Hill request to convey property created by family transfer prior to threeyear ownership commissioners meeting room 7 p.m. Board Of Adjustment cancelled Commissioners meeting room Hamilton City Council 6 p.m. Meeting to con- ANNIE'S MAILBOX Kathy Mitchell Marcy Sugar Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for three years, and we both teach at the same high school. Last semester, a new female teacher took quite a liking to my husband, who is 20 years her senior. They began meeting a few times a week for several months.

Their affair was obvious, but I confirmed it by accessing his cell phone records. To make matters worse, they were not discreet and were the talk of both the faculty and students. I cannot begin to describe the pain, humiliation and betrayal. I believe they stopped contacting each other over the summer, but school has started up again and my husband sees this woman every day. Even if they are not involved romantically, I believe she has a strong adverse effect on his mood.

There is no way our marriage can survive this interference, but I wholeheartedly believe we can get past this if she is not in the picture. Being a new teacher, she has no job protection. Should I go to the administration, expose the affair and get her fired? My husband may suffer a little, but will survive relatively unscathed. Not Teacher's Pet Dear Not: We hope you are not blaming this young woman entirely for the affair. Your husband made the decision to cheat and acted on it.

You can give him the choice of reporting the affair to the administration, taking a leave of absence or finding another England, Levin, Banister; court-ordered split: Yuhas commissioners meeting room 7 p.m. Planning Board Shoshone Lakes Two variance requests for future Shoshone Lakes major subdivision (Drake Lemm Construction, LLC); Update on planning staff transition; Update on county-wide zoning project, Appointment of planning board member to the Open Lands Board Public meeting commissioners meeting room Thursday, Oct. 2 Planning department 9 a.m. County commissioners. Pappas (Pappas and Kirkland) minor subdivision plus 1 variance Public meeting, commissioners meeting room 3 p.m.

County commissioners Planning department update Commissioners meeting room Dear Annie: I really feel for "Shell-Shocked," whose wife left him out of the blue. My wife did the same thing to me after 12 years of marriage. She threatened to take the kids away if I fought her, so 1 allowed the divorce to happen quickly. She refused counseling and started seeing other: men even before the divorce. was final.

I helped start her successful business, shared household duties, took care of the kids, bought her flowers for no reason, never missed a birthday, etc. Our friends and family were shocked and saddened. The kids and I have been in counseling ever since. Her behavior was so selfish and callous that I can't believe this is the person I married. But I am not giving up.

Somewhere out there are good people with a sense of commitment, trust and honor. The joy of a good marriage is remaining faithful and kind and working at it every day. Getting Over It Dear Getting: It sounds like you are already on the mend. Good luck to you. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column.

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